Your Boss is Too Bossy!

Sep 29

You started your business for freedom, right? You wanted the independence that comes with being your own boss. But let’s be honest: you probably ended up with a boss who is far more demanding than your old corporate supervisor—and that boss is you! 😂

Most entrepreneurs, especially women leaders, get trapped in the exhausting "I have to do it all" loop. Being the leader of your business quickly leads to overwhelm, burnout, and exhaustion—a state that's just as bad as the corporate frustration you worked so hard to escape.

But before we can start releasing those feelings, we need to lighten the load we’re carrying. I know you don't have time to map out an entire, detailed exit strategy right now. That's okay. We just need to take one small first step.

Step 1: The "All on Me" Audit

The very first step to getting unstuck and taming the overwhelm is identifying where the load is heaviest.

Do a quick audit of your commitments and ask yourself two simple questions:

What’s one piece of my current load (in my business or my personal life) that doesn't actually have to be mine to hold? This is the moment to start thinking about delegation or asking for help.
What’s one thing I’m doing that doesn't actually need to be done at all? Is it a "nice to have" that's stealing your time and energy?

If you can find even one small thing to get off your to-do list, that is one less thing that is weighing on you and stealing your energy. That is where joy starts to sneak back in.

Step 2: Set the Boundary, Honor the Promise

Protecting your energy and time is critical, not just as entrepreneurs, but for anyone living in this hectic and uncertain world. It seems straightforward, but it's where most of us struggle.

We often focus on setting the boundary, but creating control over our energy has a crucial second component: adhering to the boundaries we set.

When we tell ourselves we are going to do something and then don’t do it—whether it’s a big promise or something small like stopping work at 5 PM—we teach ourselves not to trust what we say. This erosion of self-trust makes it even harder to keep those bigger promises that are essential for our well-being.

To rebuild that inner trust and control your energy, you have to keep your promises to yourself regularly. You have to say you are going to do it, and then actually do it.

The second step this week is simple but powerful:

✨ Set a boundary you can honor this week. Pick one simple boundary—like not checking email after a set time, declining a request that isn't aligned with your goals, or carving out one specific block of rest—and commit to holding it. Then, notice how fiercely it protects your energy.